Changing my mind..

Is it wrong to change my mind? Is it wrong to be very friendly with someone and not feel like meeting them for sometime? Is it wrong for friends to do the same to you.. you wanting to meet them and they not reciprocating? Is it wrong to feel jealous and rejected if your friend bypasses you and gets pally with your husband or your best friend? Is it wrong to get angry if someone criticizes your mother? Is it wrong to be upset when your friend just chooses to be friends with someone who upsets you? It is wrong to feel the need for appreciation, attention and love?

How can it be wrong? Its a feeling and it comes from within based on my perception of the situation...

Why then do I feel guilty, if I'm not wrong?

Well, guilt is also a feeling and I probably have a need in me to feel that way... till I 'realize' that it is a useless feeling. I cannot change what I have done. I can change what I do now if I think I did something 'wrong'...

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  1. RajendraJune 22, 2010 at 11:58 PM

    As I see it, feelings will appear, and of all kinds. For example, if I as a teenager idolised say, Hema Malini, maybe I felt I wanted to marry her. Apart from the fact that Dharmendra would have bashed me up if I tried, this was impractical or impossible. So many feelings simply disappear on account of being unreasonable, given time. Some which linger can be given some thought and if reasonable, pursued to their logical conclusion.

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  2. Shobha NargundkarJune 30, 2010 at 8:49 PM

    hmmmm...

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