Shobha Nargundkar

Celebrated the successful completion of my workshop "Be the Change" on 3-4 dec. Celebrated it with Hari,Chitra and Anjali, the three people who made it possible for me to go and be at the workshop without any worries about Anjali or the home front! Thank you ! There are many more people I would like to thank who have been supporting me in my growth.. today I know that every person i relate to for a short while or for a long time, supports me directly or indirectly through the lessons that I learn from them. Because my life is a reflection of who I am , everybody is always helping me grow by holding the mirror to me... I see the reflection and I am happy when I like what I see and learn more about myself when I don't like what I see.. So that's an ongoing process and I am grateful to all my teachers... Here I want to thank all my associates and teachers who have actually helped me by being there for me and supporting me when I was not ready to go solo and take respons...

"Be the Change" is what I call my one-and-a-half-day workshop. The next one is from 8th Mar to 10th Mar (10am - 2pm). Here's a little intro about "Be the Change". "Be the Change you want to see in the world" - Gandhiji "Be the Change" is a workshop that enables you to understand how all change (inside and outside) begins within. It has the power to empower you to take control of your life. I firmly believe this is the only way to change anything in my world and today Quantum physicists and scientists are proving this scientifically. Basic philosophy: The basic idea here is that we are all energetically connected and according to the morphogenetic fields theory, and the Butterfy effect, any small change within us (including a thought) causes a corresponding change in the world . The good it can do: According to Dr. David Hawkins, if 1 person raises his vibration (various levels of human consciousness, energy levels ref...

When I attended a workshop on trans-generational healing, little did i know the lasting impact it would have on me... it not only helped me in understanding some things about myself better , but it also gave me a lot of basis for the personal coaching that I do and share it with my fellow coaches and peers. I'd like to write about it here because it is useful information for all and might free many of you from invisible bondages from the past. "Order of Love" is one basis on which this work hinges. What it means is that parents must live their life as they choose and pass on only unconditional love and support to their children and not their baggage. They must give their blessings to their children to live their lives to the fullest as per their(child's) wishes and learn from their(child's) experiences. That means it is the parents responsibility to pass on only love (and not their emotional or other baggage and expectations) to children and not the child's r...

I've taught database concepts to corporate clients before, but never spoke about Self-empowerment concepts to a large group of 35 before.(Have given a talk to a 100 or so people of the electricity board once, but i was so nervous, i don't remember now what I said!). When Ingrid called and asked if I could do "Be the Change" for her colleagues at Agro Tech , I agreed. But when she said I would have only 2 hours, I was wondering what to do. Because "Be the Change " needed at least 16 hours and only about 15 participants to be effective. Here we had only 2 hours and 40-50 participants expected. Finally I decided to give them a workshop experience instead of just a talk so that they could understand and experience some of the concepts instead of just 'knowing' and agreeing intellectually. So next job was to condense it to a 2 hour session and Sheila and I did that and timed it.. it turned out to be just perfect. So off we went last Friday, 22nd Oct,2010 ...

Is it wrong to change my mind? Is it wrong to be very friendly with someone and not feel like meeting them for sometime? Is it wrong for friends to do the same to you.. you wanting to meet them and they not reciprocating? Is it wrong to feel jealous and rejected if your friend bypasses you and gets pally with your husband or your best friend? Is it wrong to get angry if someone criticizes your mother? Is it wrong to be upset when your friend just chooses to be friends with someone who upsets you? It is wrong to feel the need for appreciation, attention and love? How can it be wrong? Its a feeling and it comes from within based on my perception of the situation... Why then do I feel guilty, if I'm not wrong? Well, guilt is also a feeling and I probably have a need in me to feel that way... till I 'realize' that it is a useless feeling. I cannot change what I have done. I can change what I do now if I think I did something 'wrong'...

I am attracted to finding spiritual solutions to practical problems which I believe translate into practical solutions automatically...mostly because the problem itself ceases to be a problem. Understanding a practical problem from a spiritual perspective dissolves the problem... the realization that you attracted the situation or the person or the disease into your life, brings peace into your life and in that peaceful state if you meditate on the situation you will find a peaceful way to handle the situation and feel grateful for the lesson and feel enriched by the experience. Knowing that you attract everything into your life is easy. Realizing it...the 'aha' moment is when the shift happens. Like this morning when I suddenly realized that 'my expectations' bring me a a lot of heartache and disappointment. When I 'expect', I don't ask. When I don't ask, I may not get. If I don't get, I get angry, because I expect others to give it to me without as...

I hate going to hospitals and doctors in general and dentists in particular. The smells remind me of unfortunate visits to the hospital for vaccinations, for surgery and most recently for my c-section, and then with Anjali last year. Reflecting on all these visits to the hospitals and why they are not happy experiences I found that I feel i have no control over the situation once we are in their care. That in itself a good thing because we can surrender completely and let them do their job. After all they are the experts. But the problem comes because I doubt their expertise and fear that they may not take sufficient care or they may not know what to do and then I might suffer as a result. I subscribe to the general belief that doctors are very "commercial" and prescribe medicines even when they are not required. And do not care about the side effects on your body. They only address the symptoms and not the cause.( Usually, these days you do meet some holistic and suppor...

Mothers help bring out all your emotions. Anger at always being treated as if 'you don't know', intense irritation at their 'I know..', frustration at their inability to understand your point of view, guilt at hurting them with your tone, your words, not taking better care of them and their needs,not spending enough time, feeling 'not good enough' when they criticize you or your way of life, feeling 'better than' when we are able to put our feet up and not worry about chores, feeling 'less than' when you think of all they have done and the way they have lived through so many odds and feeling 'love' and so many more... My mother is visiting and even though I have evolved from a 100% intolerant daughter a few years ago, to may be a 50% one, I am still surprised by some of the emotions that surface for trivial matters..triggers that bring out the suppressed emotions I'm sure. These days I erupt at something (less frequently than ...

Feelings are very strange. They seem to have no apparent logic. They seem to arrive without any notice(unwanted guests!) and are mostly dependent on what other people say or do. You have no control over your feelings. You can stuff them in 'after' they come up . Only if you are very aware,living in the moment, then may be you can watch them coming and feel them completely and let them go. Otherwise what we (me and most of my clients) do mostly with feelings is that when they suddenly descend upon us, if we like the feeling we enjoy it , and when we don't like the feeling, we try to resist it and like all things we try to resist, it persists. The more I say, 'why am I feeling this way, I don't want to feel this way',.. the more intensely I feel more of the same. Law of Attraction at work! The more I focus on what I don't want, the more i will get of what i don't want.. the Universe operates on key words and my feelings associated with it. I realised after...

Good things,New Ideas Went to Mumbai to be with Suhita and Jayant as he recovers from bypass surgery.Was a very nice and relaxing experience for me.(and hopefully for them!) Reread The Journey by Brandon Bays.. an amazing journey for her and well written... new insights into myself “Yes” factors Anjali & I flew to Mumbai and back!(despite Anjali preferring to go by bus!) Succeeded in getting Anjali to drink milk from a cup/glass! Marketing activity for workshops - met a lot of people, some of them might work out! bought myself clothes at Mumbai!(Felt some guilt pangs...they passed..) Out of comfort zone these are basically things that i do after a battle of 'yes' and 'no' in my head. flying vis-a-vis other modes of transport.. to and from Mumbai - overcame guilt and did it.. spoke to strangers about our workshop and the possibility of offering it at different locations Since I wrote all that, one more week has passed, some more things have happened. wrote a sor...

I didn't add much directly to my book this week other than jot down some more ideas. I still don't have a structure in place. Good things,New Ideas Chitra helping out with Anjali gives me time to do all this.. its the best thing that happened to me lately! Met a few people and counseled them. Organised and attended the 'Champion's mindset' review Read 'Emotional Freedom Technique' and practised it on self. Looks like a good book to read in a group and practice the simple tapping technique. Deciding to take ownership for learning to drive a car,for fitness “Yes” factors I saw that i now personally know people who buy life insurance in crores! Yes! Wrote more blogs to get the hang of putting ideas and thoughts into words. Got a couple of followers on the blog and a lot of encouraging comments.. Got invited to a party after a long time and had fun.(our contribution to the 'potluck' was tender coconut icecream from Natural's which was a big hit) was ...

I don't know what to write about.. but i want to say something. lets see where this goes. its hot in hyderabad and I am grateful for the AC. People working in offices with ACs must be attending office regularly, someone said.I agree. I would too and feel very good about myself..working through this scorching summer. But its not the same when you work at home or work from home. Only my bedroom has the AC and working in the bedroom is not a very exciting idea. And since its so hot elsewhere, I move to the bedroom and sleep. As I drift into unconsciousness an endless stream of thoughts unconnected,flit across...should I be switching the AC on..waste of power, pollution, heavy bills and so on...so all in all not a very 'feel good' experience. Having grown up in a middle class family with no AC even in the hottest of climes..(have been at Godavarikhani when temperatures touched 50 degrees C).. its probably a 'core belief' about what's 'good' and 'not goo...

I dreamt this dream a couple of days ago.. We (Hari & I) see a body lying in the bushes outside our home. Its some other place not where we live now and we are scared(at least I am) that the police will come to us for questioning, and for no logical reason other than my fear of the law and the authorities, I fear being dragged or implicated in the death of this unknown person, especially if we tell the truth about our whereabouts and about not knowing anything. So we decide to stay away(at least I ask Hari to stay away from home and he agrees) and then we plan on what to tell the police if they come and so on... All this planning ...just because we saw a body lying outside at a distance in the bushes! Hari leaves and suddenly I realize(thank God!) that we don't need to make any elaborate plans to evade anyone or anything because we haven't done anything unlawful and that is the truth! I frantically try to call Hari and cannot get through for a while and i'm worried now ...

Inspired by you Ranjani, to take a look at my week since the workshop!Thank you. So what did I do this week that was out of the comfort zone.. 1. We went and watched a movie leaving Anjali at home..she was very happy to see us go! 2. The movie was Avatar(our first IMAX experience with the glasses on and all that!)..slight discomfort. 3. Pushed myself thru the discomfort to start jotting down ideas for my book.. (Some ideas seem to be just popping in .. god's hand at work perhaps.. 4. Now when I get some ideas and don't jot them down, I feel uncomfortable 5. Lot of anger popping up... ackowledging it ..yet to work on releasing it.. (probably the reason for Anjali's fingers getting stuck in the car door...my fault.. not serious damage, but painful for the last 3 days) Nice things that happened this week : Anjali's school had a grandparent's day at school and since Aai couldn't come, Asha Maushi and Kaka who live in Hyderabad agreed to go and everyone had a grand t...

I participated in the workshop 'The Champion's Mindset' by Hari over the weekend. It was very tough for me because I have always felt 'blank' and confused whenever somebody talked about dreams, ambitions or goals. I don't think its because I don't want to achieve anything in life or make a difference, but because I'm afraid to accept them myself and take the responsibilty of achieving them. I wouldn't have any excuses for not being rich or successful or famous if I set some goals for myself and went about achieving them. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that, in a workshop setup, I could not escape from myself and therefore had to ask myself uncomfortable questions about my dreams and goals and my capabilities and skills. Which I did. And surprise ... apart from regular goals like lots of money, and very ambitious (though improbable) goals like wanting to sing(I don't do any other than with my daughter Anjali(she's two-and-a-half)), the...