Do I like myself?

Why should it matter what someone thinks about me or my work? Why do they compare? Why do I feel 'less than' whenever I compare myself with anyone? When did I decide that everyone else is better at whatever I do or whatever I am? And I have been trying to get the better of everyone else and failing miserably.

Its my core belief about myself - that I'm not good enough, no matter what I do and everyone else is better. Today I noticed it again. When people are praising me in isolation, I feel good. When I'm compared, I feel totally down. I forget all the praise and all the good things i do and am capable of doing and all the focus is on why I am not like the other person.

But I forget that I am me and I have a choice whether I want to be like that. I can listen to the feedback and decide whether I can make a positive change in myself or accept it as their opinion and let it go. We all cant be alike. I have to live my truth. Not copy someone else. I have to accept who I am and the fact that not everyone may like who I am. Just like I do not like everyone.

If I accept myself the way I am, others will too. And it won't matter if they don't.

Comments

  1. RajendraNovember 4, 2011 at 8:49 PM

    Like Thyself should be the first commandment.

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  2. Shobha NargundkarNovember 5, 2011 at 10:46 PM

    yes,it should!

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  3. HarimohanNovember 8, 2011 at 6:55 AM

    Absolutely. I think we should be our biggest fan - all else be damned. Tis the champion's first job to develop the thick hide and not be affected by 99 bad news and go to town on the 1 good one! And also sympathise with those who know not - they still have to grow up!

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