Shobha Nargundkar

I've taught database concepts to corporate clients before, but never spoke about Self-empowerment concepts to a large group of 35 before.(Have given a talk to a 100 or so people of the electricity board once, but i was so nervous, i don't remember now what I said!). When Ingrid called and asked if I could do "Be the Change" for her colleagues at Agro Tech , I agreed. But when she said I would have only 2 hours, I was wondering what to do. Because "Be the Change " needed at least 16 hours and only about 15 participants to be effective. Here we had only 2 hours and 40-50 participants expected. Finally I decided to give them a workshop experience instead of just a talk so that they could understand and experience some of the concepts instead of just 'knowing' and agreeing intellectually. So next job was to condense it to a 2 hour session and Sheila and I did that and timed it.. it turned out to be just perfect. So off we went last Friday, 22nd Oct,2010 ...

Is it wrong to change my mind? Is it wrong to be very friendly with someone and not feel like meeting them for sometime? Is it wrong for friends to do the same to you.. you wanting to meet them and they not reciprocating? Is it wrong to feel jealous and rejected if your friend bypasses you and gets pally with your husband or your best friend? Is it wrong to get angry if someone criticizes your mother? Is it wrong to be upset when your friend just chooses to be friends with someone who upsets you? It is wrong to feel the need for appreciation, attention and love? How can it be wrong? Its a feeling and it comes from within based on my perception of the situation... Why then do I feel guilty, if I'm not wrong? Well, guilt is also a feeling and I probably have a need in me to feel that way... till I 'realize' that it is a useless feeling. I cannot change what I have done. I can change what I do now if I think I did something 'wrong'...

I am attracted to finding spiritual solutions to practical problems which I believe translate into practical solutions automatically...mostly because the problem itself ceases to be a problem. Understanding a practical problem from a spiritual perspective dissolves the problem... the realization that you attracted the situation or the person or the disease into your life, brings peace into your life and in that peaceful state if you meditate on the situation you will find a peaceful way to handle the situation and feel grateful for the lesson and feel enriched by the experience. Knowing that you attract everything into your life is easy. Realizing it...the 'aha' moment is when the shift happens. Like this morning when I suddenly realized that 'my expectations' bring me a a lot of heartache and disappointment. When I 'expect', I don't ask. When I don't ask, I may not get. If I don't get, I get angry, because I expect others to give it to me without as...

I hate going to hospitals and doctors in general and dentists in particular. The smells remind me of unfortunate visits to the hospital for vaccinations, for surgery and most recently for my c-section, and then with Anjali last year. Reflecting on all these visits to the hospitals and why they are not happy experiences I found that I feel i have no control over the situation once we are in their care. That in itself a good thing because we can surrender completely and let them do their job. After all they are the experts. But the problem comes because I doubt their expertise and fear that they may not take sufficient care or they may not know what to do and then I might suffer as a result. I subscribe to the general belief that doctors are very "commercial" and prescribe medicines even when they are not required. And do not care about the side effects on your body. They only address the symptoms and not the cause.( Usually, these days you do meet some holistic and suppor...

Mothers help bring out all your emotions. Anger at always being treated as if 'you don't know', intense irritation at their 'I know..', frustration at their inability to understand your point of view, guilt at hurting them with your tone, your words, not taking better care of them and their needs,not spending enough time, feeling 'not good enough' when they criticize you or your way of life, feeling 'better than' when we are able to put our feet up and not worry about chores, feeling 'less than' when you think of all they have done and the way they have lived through so many odds and feeling 'love' and so many more... My mother is visiting and even though I have evolved from a 100% intolerant daughter a few years ago, to may be a 50% one, I am still surprised by some of the emotions that surface for trivial matters..triggers that bring out the suppressed emotions I'm sure. These days I erupt at something (less frequently than ...

Feelings are very strange. They seem to have no apparent logic. They seem to arrive without any notice(unwanted guests!) and are mostly dependent on what other people say or do. You have no control over your feelings. You can stuff them in 'after' they come up . Only if you are very aware,living in the moment, then may be you can watch them coming and feel them completely and let them go. Otherwise what we (me and most of my clients) do mostly with feelings is that when they suddenly descend upon us, if we like the feeling we enjoy it , and when we don't like the feeling, we try to resist it and like all things we try to resist, it persists. The more I say, 'why am I feeling this way, I don't want to feel this way',.. the more intensely I feel more of the same. Law of Attraction at work! The more I focus on what I don't want, the more i will get of what i don't want.. the Universe operates on key words and my feelings associated with it. I realised after...

Good things,New Ideas Went to Mumbai to be with Suhita and Jayant as he recovers from bypass surgery.Was a very nice and relaxing experience for me.(and hopefully for them!) Reread The Journey by Brandon Bays.. an amazing journey for her and well written... new insights into myself “Yes” factors Anjali & I flew to Mumbai and back!(despite Anjali preferring to go by bus!) Succeeded in getting Anjali to drink milk from a cup/glass! Marketing activity for workshops - met a lot of people, some of them might work out! bought myself clothes at Mumbai!(Felt some guilt pangs...they passed..) Out of comfort zone these are basically things that i do after a battle of 'yes' and 'no' in my head. flying vis-a-vis other modes of transport.. to and from Mumbai - overcame guilt and did it.. spoke to strangers about our workshop and the possibility of offering it at different locations Since I wrote all that, one more week has passed, some more things have happened. wrote a sor...